Getting in tune with your feelings and those of everyone around you is as easy as 1, 2, 3… 4! Practice following these four steps.
As spring is upon us, I find myself thinking about what a difference a change of scenery or season can make on mood. We are often swayed by external circumstances or situations. Sometimes the world makes us feel good—other times, not so much.
How can we change ourselves and how we feel regardless of what’s going on around us? Spring is great, but what can you do in the winter?
The answer to that falls under the realm of Emotional Intelligence (EI).
EI refers to the ability to recognize, evaluate and affect emotional states. High EI allows people to better manage their feelings, while at the same time being sensitive to the emotional needs of others. When you can monitor emotional content, you may gather skills in how to discriminate which emotions are useful in the right situations. Using this information can offer clues to which feelings are needed to say the right thing at the right time in the right degree to the right person and in the right way (phew!). Aristotle himself said that this skill was not an easy one to master.
But if we do develop it, results can be dramatic. With high EI, you don’t need spring to come around to make you feel good.
Dan Goleman, Ph.D., psychologist and author of the landmark book, Emotional Intelligence, says that having a high EI is a better predictor of success in anything—relationships, work, school, even health—than having a high IQ. Emotional Intelligence composes the characteristics of people who excel in real life: emotional awareness, self-control, persistence, eagerness and motivation, empathy and social deftness.
The good news is that although some people are born and blessed with high levels of EI, most everyone can get better at it.
Read the rest of The ABCs of Emotional Intelligence at YouBeauty.